Sample first email on a dating site
Some guys think that it’s cool to copy and paste and throw out a message like bait in a lake full of carp. I’d like to say there’s no right or wrong way to message someone (everyone usually has something that works for them), but there is definitely a better way.
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About the Author: Krystal Baugher Krystal Baugher lives in Denver, Colorado.
I have never sent a third, fourth, or fifth email, but now I kinda want to, just to see what happens.
As long as what happens isn’t the cops showing up at my house.
I asked her one question, and the response I received was pure gold. When you’ve got a bunch of emails to choose from, it’s pretty hard to select one that, in the one moment it has to advertise, offers only the word “(none)”. So, generally I’ll go back and find their original message, reread their new message, look at their profile, and decide whether to respond. I actually think it’s not a bad idea to send two emails to everyone you write, if you feel like spending that sort of time on Internet dating, and don’t mind veering dangerous close to serial killer zone.
(Can not add link because I totally made that up.) But as we suggested last week, we are not done with Olivia, our resident hot chick. When I go through my inbox, I do read every message.No, there will be no more stories of woe, no more pleas for sympathy for the complicated predicament of being an attractive lady online. That might sound like a lot of time, but it generally only takes 10-30 seconds to read a message.
It seems crazy, I know, but take the one or two minutes it takes to actually read the profile.To elucidate her point, Olivia sent me a screengrab of her inbox. I have had some guys seriously send multiple messages with no responses.I don’t know what they’re thinking, but clearly they can’t take a hint.Because my landlord is really getting tired of that.Olivia offers a good deal of advice on what a guy (or girl, for that matter) 50 other guys have asked her “how are you”, “any plans for the weekend”, “how is your week going”, so don’t be surprised when I don’t answer if that’s the ENTIRE text of your message.Here’s the deal with the messaging thing, a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try pick-up-artist “negging.” Some send ridiculously long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.