Even if he seems like he could be “the one,” you don’t know him well enough to be sure. This is the most important thing of all to remember: you need to cultivate this single mindset for yourself, not to get a reaction out of him. The most important thing is not to commit to a man in your heart before he’s explicitly committed to you, and to keep an open mind about other men, whether you happen to be dating others at the moment or not.
The two things could certainly be related for a couple of reasons.
First, it’s a lot of pressure for a man to be the center of your universe.
MORE: Why Men Lose Interest and How to Fix It Take note of it and anything else he does that makes you unhappy.
Do this because you need to see the whole picture, and if you focus on his good qualities to the exclusion of everything else, you’re not seeing the whole picture.
If you constantly step in and chase, you’ll never know anything except how he reacts to being caught.
We’ve all had friends who disappear as soon as they get a boyfriend.
Not in a negative or critical way, but to remind yourself that he’s not perfect. Maybe he doesn’t stay in touch with you throughout the week, when you’d like a phone call every couple of days?You don’t know him as well as you think you do, and you shouldn’t let your heart get ahead of your head. You need to begin relationships with the right mindset.Instead, use your head to protect your heart by not giving it away so easily to someone you can’t possibly know well enough, yet, to trust with it. You are evaluating him to see if he’s right for you.However, one thing you should always be doing no matter what is focusing on your own life.Your life is not a man, but if you’re fixating on a guy it can be hard to remember that.MORE: The Number One Reason Men Suddenly Lose Interest Until he becomes your boyfriend, remember that he’s just one of the many men who could be right for you. Why would you give your all to a man who’s holding back, and why would you decide he’s the one for you when he still hasn’t decided about you and his interest levels seem to be dropping off? MORE: 5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships Maybe you don’t have time to date multiple men, aren’t interested in anybody else at the moment, or the dating pool in your area is just so shallow it’s hard to find one man to date, let alone two or three. It’s not a hard and fast rule that you must date multiple men at a time.