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Dating advice for lesbians

And yes, bitching out your ex-girlfriend— unless she was Cruella II— is not at all a good idea.

Read the undercurrents— if she’s on BBM constantly; if she’s getting picked up and dropped off by her ‘best friend’, or if she is flirty on chat, but isn’t in person and refuses to acknowledge your presence beyond casual pleasantries… Rule No 4: Embrace the ex-factor The best advice I got from my first lesbian friend who sat me down the night I came out to her was, “The lesbian world is very incestuous. I’ve seen exes hang out with their ex-girlfriends and their current partners without even a mere raising of the eyebrow from friends.

So the first thing you have to learn is to be friends with your exes and your flings! In fact, some of them have gone out of their way to play cupid for their ex-girlfriend!

You will be invited to house parties, sleepovers, community events, movie screenings, late night drives; and discover more BFF’s than Paris Hilton in a few weeks!

Well-meaning lezzie couples will try and fix you with friends, and you will get more than your dose of dating advice and phone numbers.

But know that any social networking move will be dissected and bisected by the L-World!

Also learning how to be super cool even as you know that your current crush could have dated every single woman in the room is a skill you must perfect before you jump into the dating scene.

So, develop a thick skin and learn to keep explorations, dates, introspection of your romance and love life off your Facebook updates/wallposts! There is some undercurrent always going on— friends with benefits, one night stands, exes with physical strings attached.But in the lesbian dating scene – it is really where a lot of the opening gambits are made.While cheesy names ( I know, Tappy Tippy doesn’t really go that far— but – it’s an adjective filled world you are going to contend with), stranger pictures (grainy faces, sketches in black and white, body parts, celebrities— almost everything is fair and square) and cheesy lines.Many labels abound and few women wear the tag of being lesbian with ease!Also given how many closets most gay women live with, only a miniscule percentage ever really come out.The rhyme for dating success in the lesbian community could well be —Trust personal experience— if her ex-girlfriend doesn’t like you—you ain’t gonna score brownie points!